“DISABILITY” IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER
As a yoga instructor living with MS, I often find myself at the intersection of perception and reality. From the outside looking in, I appear to be the “picture” of wellness based on my physical appearance. The downside of that is those who only see the polished exterior may not realize the struggles I face beneath the surface and make assumptions that are often incorrect. I’ve faced plenty of judgment based on my appearance and ability alone.
The truth is, living with an invisible disability means I wear many masks, as I’m sure others can identify with. What you see is not always what you get! Many times after class, I am approached with compliments about my flexibility, power and strength. Often followed by remarks like, “I’m not as flexible as you,” “I can’t do what you’re doing but I’ll get there,” “You make it look so easy!” or “I would have never guessed you had MS!” In these moments, highlight how looks can be deceiving.
These assumptions aren’t just specific to my yoga practice. People assume that because I look “healthy and able,” I must not have limitations or need accommodations and understanding. After Wellness Week(end), I utilized wheelchair support at the airport. The person assisting me on my flight home said, “Oh nah, so you ain’t crippled. You can walk,” when I went through the TSA machine. This unsolicited comment was made while having no understanding of what I battle daily and why I needed the services in the first place.
These misunderstandings can be so isolating, highlighting the need for awareness around what lies beneath the surface of so many of our experiences battling something that others can’t see. It’s why I'm so passionate about what I do as a yoga instructor and my ambassadorship with We Are ILL.
It’s important to remember that everyone's journey is deeply personal and complex. Being in the wellness community, I make it a point to foster an inclusive environment. I encourage my students to avoid judgement of themselves and others, keep their eyes on their own mat, do what feels good to them and to know their body doesn’t have to look like mine now or ever. I encourage them to slow down and check in with themselves, reminding them that strength isn’t only about how well one can perform a pose. It’s about listening to one’s body.
“Disability” and “wellness” don’t look the same for everyone. By choosing to approach others with curiosity and compassion, we can create a more understanding world — one where we lift each other up rather than inadvertently push anyone back down. It’s essential for all of us to understand that everyone has their own battles, some just happen to be more visible than others.
Let’s embrace the truth that while appearances may be deceiving, the connections we forge through understanding can illuminate our shared humanity.
